Head. Some gals can easily deepthroat without any sort of advanced training.

They are just naturally gifted.

The desire to be able to take a cock all the way down, balls deep, is hot.

These thoughts are just mine for anyone who want to improve their skills.

Passion For the Art Form

The first thing you MUST do to give a great deepthroat blowjob – and I think this is true of ANYTHING in life – is that you must love it.

Your mind space has to be one of absolute passion.

You can give head and it will be acceptable to 90% of men. But there is a big difference between sucking dick to please a man and being pleased to suck a man’s dick.

To give head that he will remember the rest of his life, requires a passionate, true love of the art form.

If you don’t have a great love for it, but wish you did, you can develop it.

But without it, expectations for your oral skills should remain humble at best.

How Do I Feel About It?

I just love to give a man an awesome blowjob.

I just instinctively have that ‘giving nature’ and truly love to please.

I don’t need to go into any special headspace or a meditative state.

I just get extremely happy about giving head. I wish everyone was like that.

Giving head is one of the nicest things you can do for another human being and the sense of satisfaction after doing a good job is unparalleled.

You Have to Practice Breath Holding

The average person can hold their breath about 30 seconds.

That seems to be a threshold where the brain begins to panic. I slowly built up to 60 seconds, doing all this very slowly and gradually.

Each session might last 30-60 minutes and it might take several sessions to build up to the 60 second threshold.

I repeat. SLOWLY building up to this.

Gently. Calmly.

Do everything to reduce panic of the brain and maintain control and comfort.

You are a terrible f&^k when you…

The enemy of good sex is selfishness.

If you are selfish in life, you will be a lousy f%$k.

Men AND women. Any level of experience, any age.

Anyone. Giving head is a great example of that. I can tell more about a lover from how they give head (sucking cock or eating pussy) than a thousand conversations.

How they approach their lover to how they finish the job. So, maybe the mind space I’m emphasizing is one of self-LESS-ness.

It’s all about giving a gift and taking your own pleasure from giving pleasure.

Selfishness also means they aren’t going to take much time to learn how to get good at any kind of giving.

And when they aren’t very good, they won’t have confidence in their skills, which means they’ll enjoy it even less. And that means they’ll be less enthused about learning how to get better.

That’s a bad cycle I would rather avoid….

The Perfect Act

Done properly, head is the perfect sexual act.

Why do I think guys LOVE blowjobs?

Yes, because they feel great. But that’s not the biggest reason.

Think about a man’s life. Everywhere he goes, everything he does, he has to work for something and be responsible for something.

Even having sex, he has to work for it.

If he’s a decent man, he’s considering your pleasure as much as his own and he’s, at minimum, trying to make it good for you too.

But when he’s getting a blowjob, he gets to just lay there and enjoy it.

He doesn’t have to think about anything. He doesn’t have to do any work.

He doesn’t have to make any decisions.

He’s not responsible for anything except just enjoying the gift.

THAT is why I think they like blowjobs so much.

THAT is the wonderful gift us girls are giving – one that is mentally relaxing as well as physically.

And as selfish as many men can be, and as emotionally immature as they can be, when a man is getting a good blowjob from someone who genuinely loves giving them, they are very grateful in that moment.

Right then, they are FEELING a variety of emotions that may not make their way to the surface any other time. I’m glad I love giving them.