I had a text a few days ago who questioned why I hadn’t made an appointment to see him. He asked me if it was because he is Indian? “If you are not looking to see me as I am Indian, just tell me and I won’t message you ever again, no hard feelings. I tried meeting you over texts and emails several times but it’s always declined”. Now, that is true, but only as our times are not mutually compatible at this point. But it will happen!
At first, I was really annoyed. But, as I do, I rolled it around in my head and tried to put myself in his shoes. I figured he had probably had a hard time with his skin colour/race/nationality whilst booking escorts. I’ll speak frankly as I do. Most sex workers do not like seeing Indians. I’m afraid I won’t even blog about why and what is commonly said. I am just not going to go there. I won’t. It’s over generalising and just bloody rude. I do not like racism as I don’t like sexism, nepotism, and plenty of other “isms” 😊 the things I have heard some ladies say regarding specific races and nationalities is revolting. Yes, they have their right to opinion. I guess if I don’t have anything nice to say I will try and say nothing at all. Usually.
Geelong is a diverse, rich town culturally, which is a fortunate thing. I don’t know whether it’s due to my screening process or not, but I have a few regular Indian clients. And Chinese, Australian, Irish, English, Japanese, South African. I am not interested in nationality to “screen” men a “yes” or “no”. Statistics however, are interesting and there are common threads within appointments amongst nationalities. Did you know that? So, by asking for nationality as part of my screening process it is simply to mentally prepare for who I am meeting. That’s all. I in fact, enjoy my Indian clients. As far as I am concerned if you are polite, respectful, honest, smell great, hygienic, timely, efficient and pay the required amount with zero fuss I am happy.
In fact, since working as an escort in the Geelong area I cannot recall a single Indian or Chinese client who attempted to negotiate. I do recall more than a few Australians. Does that mean I don’t see Australians, no of course not? I simply changed my ad to address negotiating and how I feel about it. (You do not get to negotiate my self-worth. Ever.).
I am not saying I’m an angel. But I am a pretty nice human being. I don’t like to make others feel “less than”. I have been made to feel that more times than I care to remember by clients unfortunately and it’s not nice. I don’t do that crap to others. Unless they give me a reason, and then I will defend myself as anyone would. I will stand up to bullies. But I dislike people who tar everyone with the same brush based on nationality. Racism is not tolerated by me in my work sphere and my social world.
If you are a client and you want to make an appointment, follow the ladies contact protocol. If she doesn’t want to see you and you suspect it’s based on your nationality, consider that you dodged a bullet. You aren’t missing out. Not on anything good and worthy. There ARE plenty of companions who thankfully are non-judgemental and will happily see you and provide a wonderful service. Don’t try and change her mind, its oxygen wasted it truly is. And if you are a local escort who wants a reference from me but you don’t see particular “races” do not, please, ask me for a reference as I won’t provide one. That’s how deeply I feel about this issue. The way you speak and deal with others is a big reflection on YOU, not them.
Pre COVID, I met a gentleman who had contacted 4 Geelong escorts. 2 of the escorts never responded to his messages which he followed the ladies’ requests carefully. And 2 turned him down flat. Lucky me. He verified effortlessly, paid his deposit without a single question (I didn’t have a website then either). When I greeted him, he handed me a bunch of quality tulips, was really really nice and left me a $1200 tip for nothing. There was no fantasy included in the service, he just left it quietly…. So, more fool those who cast judgement so quickly. Maybe it’s an age thing and you learn not to do that? I wonder if it is more the younger ladies who refuse different nationalities? Feel free to pass comment on your experience if you wish. I’d like to hear…