Here’s the thing about “working gals:”. Some people love us and some people hate us, but everyone wants to talk about us. With talk comes rumours, and with rumours come myths, lies, and stereotypes. Not every fabulous, feisty, feminist woman can be put into the same “working girl” box. So, here are a few common myths and stereotypes about working gals that just simply aren’t true.

1. We’re doing it for attention.

If female identifying folx have a lot of sex with multiple partners, then they must be doing it because they’re thirsty for attention! Beyond that, anyone whose sexuality is expressed outside of the conventional norm is often accused of the same thing.

Just because I choose to date a lot of people or another girl chooses to date people regardless of gender, or another girl has lost count of her “number” doesn’t mean it was done for attention. My sexuality is for me. And get this – sometimes people have sex because they f^&%g want to.

2. We’ll sleep with anyone.

Just because YOU identify someone as a working girl or has been defamed as one by society does not mean that they don’t have standards or desires when it comes to a partner. This concept of “I would sleep with anyone” couldn’t be farther from the truth.

Why Verify Then?

If that were true, why have a screening process at all? If a guy isn’t polite, respectful, warm, etc., I don’t want to know. If he is a little funny, or kind or both, hey, I’m in. I VERY much care who I sleep with. Conceited, arrogant, rude, FORGET it, it’s just a total turn off. See ya…

And hey, if you’re the very rare slutty gal who will sleep with anyone, as long as you are happy and healthy, I couldn’t care less. Why? Because it affects me in no way, shape, or form! So why should it affect you?

3. We have “Daddy” Issues.

This particular false claim really freaking irks me! Why? 1) Not all working or promiscuous women have problems with our fathers. I have always had a very healthy one with mine. 2) Just because someone has “daddy issues” doesn’t mean they are a bad person or unworthy of your time! The whole phrase implies that the father figure was a jerk, not the child. Why should the daughter be treated as a lesser because her father was the bad guy? And 3) it’s just OLD……ho hum…..

4. We dislike other females.

As a girl who advocates sisterhood I absolutely loathe when women say, “I don’t get along with other girls.” Look, it’s fine if you’ve had bad experiences with women. But you have got to acknowledge that this probably has nothing to do with women as a group.

It has, more likely, everything to do with the way society pits us against one another. In the slutty gal community, we totally love and respect other women. And we love our sisters. We build each other up. I like girls. Always and forever.  

5. We’re going to end up old and lonely with only cats for company.

First of all, if I end up old with only cats, pizza, Netflix, my vibe, and books for company, I’ll be one very happy camper. Let’s acknowledge that for some working gals, this is pretty fucking ideal. But on to the real conversation: what a load of horseshit!

Being a slut doesn’t mean that. Having radical or unique views about life might make working gals different, but being dissimilar doesn’t set you up for a life alone. If anything, it means we are forward-thinking, ahead of our time, and ready to embrace the future to come. Whether that future involves a husband, a wife, ten cats, or all three. 😉

6. Our lifestyle is unhealthy.

Some working gals are trans. Some are LGBTQ+. Some have multiple sexual partners. Some smoke pot. Some masturbate a whole freaking lot. Some are party animals. Some are non-binary. Some are vegan. Some are adrenaline junkies. Some are fat. Some are like me: hetero, healthy, fit, strong and um, normal, everyday women.

If you are happy and healthy, if you are open and honest with your sexual partners – then there is nothing wrong with your lifestyle. “Healthy” means something different for everyone. You worry about you thanks and I’ll worry about me. I have a strong suspicion I am fitter and healthier than you. 😊

Not smoking, drinking, drugging is probably going to ensure I live a long life.

7. Any vagina that has seen a lot of action is “loose”.

Okay, no. Just no. A freakin baby can fit through that thing and it’ll go back to its original size and shape, or just about. Further, I’m living proof that isn’t true. I am (sorry for the in-depth info) always being told I “am tight”. Working gals are educated, so those of us with vaginas know all about Kegel exercises to keep our vaginal and pelvic floor muscles strong.

Your threatened!

I get it. The fact that I have dildos bigger than your penis intimidates you. But don’t worry about me. And on a different note – “loose” doesn’t mean bad and it doesn’t mean promiscuous. People are built differently, and sex can be pleasurable for all partners regardless of anatomy. In hetero relationships, I’m sure more girls put up with tiny penises than men put up with “loose” vaginas. F%^$k off.

8. We will never feel fulfilled.

We’ve all heard it – that people who sleep around are just looking to fill a void. That’s true for some as it can be with any “emotional crutch”, from religion to drinking, from art to drugs, from working out at the gym to working out in bed.

For many, fulfilment comes from positive aspects in life. That can include a hobby, a family, a career, etc. And you know what? Maybe sex does fulfil some people. If it does, good for you.

I wouldn’t say it fulfils me, but it sure makes me feel good. And feeling good helps me continue to reach for my goals in other aspects of life! And believe me, I am extraordinarily goal oriented.

You don’t achieve what I have in my life without being exceptionally focused, task-oriented, diligent and disciplined. When I’m getting laid, I’m more likely to be in a good mood at work and to hit the ocean for a swim/row a few times a week!

9. It’s just a phase. We’ll grow out of it.

Finally, I know some people think being a “slut” is just a phase. Sure, for some of us, our party girl or player days will only last for a few years. Given I didn’t begin to be a “naughty” gal until I was already mature, I can’t see it ending anytime soon. Forget the haters, the rumours, and the lies. Understand the fun gal – and quit with the old-school stereotypes. They are wrong. Boring. And old.

So I’m early 50 and love sex more than I ever have. GREAT! Lucky me.

Lily Levine – Geelong’s Best Escort